Discovering what motivates us to pursue change and maintain change in our lives is started by understanding where our motivators lay. The second handout in my Relapse Prevention curiculum helps one discover and put in place their own motivators.
The 3 most common types of motivational styles are Goal-Oriented, Learning-Oriented, and Relationship-Oriented.
Goal-Oriented people are motivated by concrete goals and completion of tasks. Relationships and learning are a secondary gain and means to completing a specific quest. Those of us who are goal oriented respond better,and stay on task, when we are regularly reminded of what we have to gain and lose by our behaviors.
Learning-Oriented people are more motivated by the process than the completion of a task. They lean towards work positions and tasks that allow for learning and not simply procedural following. When working through our recovery, overcoming trauma, or simply trying to find a more balanced life, a learning orientation that enjoys psycho-education can be a game changer.
Relationship-Oriented people, as suspected, are motivated by building and maintaining relationships. Engaging in therapy or support based groups, or change focused communities, can bring about further and quicker growth than just one on one therapy.
Thinking further: What is your motivation style? How can you utilize this knowledge to promote and sustain change in your life? What are your top motivators right now, and why? What can you put in place to keep your mind focused on these motivations?